It was so hot on the day when Eleanor McDonald and Ken Thomson were married in 1961 that they had to carry ice packs in the car with them to keep themselves cool. The couple, who now reside in Cooranbong, were married in a church in Brighton, Melbourne. It was back in the days before air conditioning, so they had to withstand temperatures of 38 degrees as they vowed to each other that they would stay together as “long as they both shall live”. That’s not to say the wedding wasn’t fun. In fact they had so much party spirit that during the photo session they had to find a vacuum cleaner to get all the confetti out of the groomsmen’s trousers! And then the father of the flower girl drove home with Eleanor’s luggage leaving her waiting for a couple of hours before she could leave on her honeymoon.
It was a memorable day and the beginning of a marriage Eleanor says “can best be described as great.” Ken taught Physics and Computer Science at University level and Eleanor had “the more important job of teaching primary level where I had the opportunity of inspiring kids in the joy of learning.” They were blessed with two children, Laurie and Wendy and now have four grandchildren. The couple both agree that grand parenting is the best occupation of all.
They have lived adventurous lives together, teaching in the United States and travelling to 49 of America’s 50 States during their time there. They’re favourite destinations were the National Parks and historical sites. Since retiring they’ve cruised and motored in Canada and Alaska, the Caribbean and through the Panama Canal. They’ve been whale watching in Hawaii, done a trip around the world and best of all – spent time exploring their own backyard: the Red Centre, Darwin, The Great Barrier Reef and all the way down the coast to Mt. Kosciusko.
Eleanor appreciates the lives they’ve had together. “We’ve have been fortunate to have received heaps of extras, in close family ties, travel and lots of friends.” Ken said to Eleanor before he married her “I might not be able to give you all the luxuries, but if we’ve got love, friends and can show hospitality, then we’ve got everything.” They claim to have proved that an Aussie and a Kiwi (Eleanor is originally a New Zealander) is a winning combination.
When asked if they have any advice to young couples about how to create a long lasting and fulfilling marriage, Eleanor says that love has to be unconditional. “Give your partner space for himself and his interests and don’t be afraid if you’re not a good cook because if he knows he’s loved he won’t worry one bit if the food’s not gourmet.” Ken agrees, “Respect your partner; she may have points of view that differ from yours, but as a person, she is of equal value. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill, and if you differ in less important situations – give in to her! She is highly likely to be right!”
With so many years under their belts the Thomsons are an example of what marriage can be – full of adventure, family and a time of sharing with your best friend. And things are only just beginning – there’s still at least two more of the United States to visit!
